When Sex Doesn't Feel Sexy
When we were newlyweds, I often used to wonder, “How much sex should a married couple be having?”
“What is average? What is normal?” The answer I’ve come to recognize is simply, “More.”
But in saying that, if you are like many others, you may feel like sex just doesn’t feel sexy anymore. Here are a 5 common misconceptions and struggles that may be interfering with your SEX LIFE.
Dude, You're Not Going To Die
There is often an expectation that all sexual needs and desires will be completely met once you are married to “the one”. Sorry to break it to you, bro, but, it’s just not true.
We, as husbands, will have to deny ourselves in order to serve our wives. This will apply to many aspects of the relationship. Guaranteed, it will affect the sexual dimension.
How To Be Happy Without Sex
“What? You’ve never had sex? Like... ever?”
“Nope. Never.”
“How do you even live!? How can you be so happy?”
A conversation I once had with a girl whose jaw hit the floor when I told her my story. 32, single, not sexually active and H A P P Y.
When The Pain Hits Home
That summer changed my life; it changed my outlook and sent me on a journey. Years passed. I searched for answers. I didn't just want logic to break the confusion in my head. I needed to know that we were not all destined to be slaves of our sexual desires.
Dear Church: On the Topic of Abortion - It's Not So Simple.
We can’t go after the issue of abortion and not be willing to confront the engine that is spinning the gears on the whole conveyor belt. If we’re going to actually help women, we have to go way further back and way deeper down.
And what you find there, Church, is going to inconvenience you far more than you may realize. If we actually care about human dignity and see value in all life, we’re going to have to prove it.
The Vulnerability of Being a Woman
You may be tempted to resist your very identity in order to not face such a vulnerable existence. If you have been hurt or disappointed, you may wish that you were tougher and that you could perpetually "shake it off", but it never works out quite the way we imagined it would. On paper our Canadian women are doing great. We have increasing access to scholarships and job promotions, sports achievement, and involvement in projects and causes. Yet, we are among the mass population of women who are self-medicating.
But it does not have to stay this way.
Define The Relationship - Elements of a Healthy Romantic Relationship
I want to share some very practical elements of what makes a romantic relationship healthy, what needs to be at the core of the relationship, and what we really need to get rid of.
Shutting the door: What to do when you've gone further than you wanted to
I want to tell you that you’ve only gone too far if you don’t turn around. You may say, “You have no idea what I have done!”
I don’t have to know what you’ve done, because I know the mercy of God.
Hungry for Love
Just like physical hunger, we have a real need to be filled. We long to be reminded of our identity and value - who we are on the inside. A family and community can certainly fill some of our needs, but no one on earth can handle the full weight and pressure of another human heart.
Don't Answer the Door - How to Resist Temptation
Just think about that for a second! Jesus, who was God with skin on, faced all the same similar temptations that you and I face. Emphasis on the similar. Just because you feel the need to binge on Netflix while eating a tub of ice cream doesn’t mean you are sharing in the sufferings of Christ.
Secrets to Finding a Mentor
Most people wrestle between two urges - the urge to be a mature, strong-minded individuals and the urge to be connected, protected and invested in.
Maybe we can be both.
Maybe we can grow to be individualized, yet still connected, like the cells in your body. True to self, yet committed to and reliant on others.
What To Do When You Feel Lonely
In fear, we set up a construct around ourselves - attempting to form a bullet-proof shield. It turns out to be air-tight. Oxygen is running out. Our chests tighten, our vision blurs and we lose our bearings.