Why You Can't Just Get Over It (and why intimacy demands fidelity)
You took the risk of trusting and disclosing the core of who you are. You were naked and exposed before them. To be rejected or discarded at that point will certainly hurt. And your brain tells you that you never want to feel that way again.
When Sex Doesn't Feel Sexy
When we were newlyweds, I often used to wonder, “How much sex should a married couple be having?”
“What is average? What is normal?” The answer I’ve come to recognize is simply, “More.”
But in saying that, if you are like many others, you may feel like sex just doesn’t feel sexy anymore. Here are a 5 common misconceptions and struggles that may be interfering with your SEX LIFE.
Dude, You're Not Going To Die
There is often an expectation that all sexual needs and desires will be completely met once you are married to “the one”. Sorry to break it to you, bro, but, it’s just not true.
We, as husbands, will have to deny ourselves in order to serve our wives. This will apply to many aspects of the relationship. Guaranteed, it will affect the sexual dimension.
How To Be Happy Without Sex
“What? You’ve never had sex? Like... ever?”
“Nope. Never.”
“How do you even live!? How can you be so happy?”
A conversation I once had with a girl whose jaw hit the floor when I told her my story. 32, single, not sexually active and H A P P Y.
The Vulnerability of Being a Woman
You may be tempted to resist your very identity in order to not face such a vulnerable existence. If you have been hurt or disappointed, you may wish that you were tougher and that you could perpetually "shake it off", but it never works out quite the way we imagined it would. On paper our Canadian women are doing great. We have increasing access to scholarships and job promotions, sports achievement, and involvement in projects and causes. Yet, we are among the mass population of women who are self-medicating.
But it does not have to stay this way.
Define The Relationship - Elements of a Healthy Romantic Relationship
I want to share some very practical elements of what makes a romantic relationship healthy, what needs to be at the core of the relationship, and what we really need to get rid of.
Hungry for Love
Just like physical hunger, we have a real need to be filled. We long to be reminded of our identity and value - who we are on the inside. A family and community can certainly fill some of our needs, but no one on earth can handle the full weight and pressure of another human heart.
Four Things You Need To Be Before You Get Married
It is not about achieving perfection, but about direction.
It is about building a reputation and reputations are built through repetitions…
Not a Dirty Word
Sex is not the problem. Unrestrained sex is the issue.
I have great concern that we have begun to accept a tainted version of sexuality - one riddled with shame, embarrassment, performance and fear.