How to Prepare Young Boys to Deal with Porn
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How to Prepare Young Boys to Deal with Porn

For so long the religious answer to porn was simply, "Don't" and "Stop." Even those who have no affiliation with faith are discovering via research and experience the damaging affects of pornography on relationships, one’s sexual health, and psychological well-being. But guess what? Knowing the side affects hasn’t stopped the industry.

It's not enough. Porn is built on damaging presumptions; by identifying these lies we can lay a foundation of understanding for our children and put the issue into the context of their life.

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What God Has Joined Together
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What God Has Joined Together

As married couples, we live so close that every rough edge we still have will touch the other person. Those splinters can get caught under the skin. The temptation is for us to become calloused. To stop hoping. To stop letting your spouse near. To stop caring so that you won’t face disappointments. To let your smile fade and your eyes grow cold. It is the thought, “You can’t hurt me if I don’t let you close.”

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Why Men Are So Emotional
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Why Men Are So Emotional

What happens if a sensitive soul lives in a world that belittles the expression of emotion?

What if a boy doesn't find a safe place to come back to? What if his tears are constantly belittled? What if his defenses get stuck? What if he stops feeling?

Look around. Look within. You are most likely experiencing it. Who told men they weren’t allowed to feel?

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Be loved
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Be loved

Your value extends beyond your physical appearance. It goes beyond your ability to turn someone’s head or keep the crowd’s attention with your beauty. You are allowed to desire to be known at a deeper level than just skin on skin. You are allowed to want to be feel safe in friendships and in a relationship.

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RESPECT
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RESPECT

What does it mean to be a real man?

Is it about your physical abilities? Is it about sexual conquests or being desired by a woman? About status, money, and power? Those things may gain you some attention, but they won’t get you self-respect.

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Being a Mother. Being A Lover.
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Being a Mother. Being A Lover.

The question is, how can a woman navigate the significantly different roles of mother and lover?

How can she recognize BOTH as good and healthy, but not let those roles interchange? Because our husbands certainly do not need us to mother them, and our children desperately need to grow up seeing the personhood of woman, distinct from her sexuality.

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Dude, You're Not Going To Die
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Dude, You're Not Going To Die

There is often an expectation that all sexual needs and desires will be completely met once you are married to “the one”. Sorry to break it to you, bro, but, it’s just not true.

We, as husbands, will have to deny ourselves in order to serve our wives. This will apply to many aspects of the relationship. Guaranteed, it will affect the sexual dimension.

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Dear Church: On the Topic of Abortion - It's Not So Simple.
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Dear Church: On the Topic of Abortion - It's Not So Simple.

We can’t go after the issue of abortion and not be willing to confront the engine that is spinning the gears on the whole conveyor belt. If we’re going to actually help women, we have to go way further back and way deeper down.

And what you find there, Church, is going to inconvenience you far more than you may realize. If we actually care about human dignity and see value in all life, we’re going to have to prove it.

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The Vulnerability of Being a Woman
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The Vulnerability of Being a Woman

You may be tempted to resist your very identity in order to not face such a vulnerable existence. If you have been hurt or disappointed, you may wish that you were tougher and that you could perpetually "shake it off", but it never works out quite the way we imagined it would. On paper our Canadian women are doing great. We have increasing access to scholarships and job promotions, sports achievement, and involvement in projects and causes. Yet, we are among the mass population of women who are self-medicating.

But it does not have to stay this way.

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